Self-Care and Healing: How Survivors of Domestic Violence Can Build a Support Circle

Learning how to build a safe support circle after domestic violence is essential, yet building one can sometimes feel overwhelming. Healing takes time, and the first step is surrounding yourself with people who are safe, supportive, and understanding. You don’t have to face this journey alone. During Self-Care Awareness Month, remember that focusing on your well-being and building a circle of support is not only possible, it's a meaningful act of healing and self-love. 

Before reaching out to others, take a moment to connect with yourself and consider what feels safe for you. Begin by identifying one trustworthy person, this could be a friend, family member, counselor, or advocate who will listen without judgment. Consider the safest way to communicate, such as a private phone, secured messaging, or meeting in a secure environment. If you’re not comfortable or ready to share with someone you know, advocates at the National Domestic Violence Hotline are available to help you create a safety plan that fits your needs. 

Rebuilding trust and connections takes time, and it’s okay to move at your own pace. Creating a circle of support may feel overwhelming at first, but taking small, intentional steps can make it easier. If you're not ready to share details, begin with simple requests, like asking someone to accompany you to an appointment or watching the kids for a short time so that you can take a break. If you are feeling isolated, consider joining virtual or in-person support groups for survivors of domestic violence, where you can connect with others who understand your journey. 

This September and in the days ahead, let self-care and safe support guide you on your path to healing. There are several resources available. If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, please reach out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline for support at 1-800-799-7233 or text “START” to 88788. They are available 24/7 to connect with you. If you are in immediate danger, dial 911.